A few thoughts on Church

Looking for a church is not easy. Being in an interracial relationship with children I look for a few things. 

Here's my personal list

1) I need a multiracial church

2) Non-denominational 

3) Laid back setting

4) Children's church

I love The Lord but honestly I don't always feel like going to church. That's why I make it a weekly goal so no matter what, I know I need to go. (my accountability) We've been to a few churches and seen a few things. If you start learning personal things about a Pastor does it make you have a different view on them or can you separate the two? Honestly it's hard for me to do it. A Pastors role is extremely crucial & should be taken serious and not as a money maker! I'm coming to you as a spiritual adviser and you need to live right. Yes, I know their human but come on, lets be real! We are all held accountable and a sin is a sin but do you feel they should have some form of higher standards? I do. If someone is doing something illegal do you want them telling you to get yourself right? What if they don't treat their spouse right? What if they live a double life? We can go on and on here. How do you handle when there are things you feel just ain't right? I'm in that situation. I like our Pastor but there is a Pastor at the church that I just don't know about. I do question a few things he speaks about. Man are called but few are chosen (Mat 22:14) the Bible also speaks of false prophets. I'm left puzzled when around him and I don't like that feeling. I struggle with the "You can't judge someone only God can." I'm not trying to judge him but I'm confused based on his preaching and a few things in his personal life. I need to pray that God will give me the direction to go in because this is beyond me. What are your thoughts? 

Scripture vs Testimony

Grace- (in Christian belief) the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.
* a divinely given talent or blessing
* the condition or fact of being favored by someone

Hope- a feeling of expectation and desire for  a certain thing to happen

Faith- complete trust or confidence in someone or something

Mercy- compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one's power to punish or harm


I try not to use the word Hope as much as I can because I feel I should have more Faith then anything. I know we have our own personally relationships with God but I've never meet someone that is so far left field. At first I didn't know how to digest it, I was so mind blown. There are times I get hit with something that truly boggles my mind and speaking with this person gave me a boggling moment. When can be a Holy Roller or churchy but sometimes sharing your story is a blessing in it self. I don't consider myself churchy but sometimes just breaking it down and being real will create a greater impact then giving scriptures. Knowing the bible is amazing but I don't know it. I can't quote the bible to save my life. Do I need to study so I can learn, yeah I do. But sometimes you just need to listen. Don't listen to judge but listen to help. Don't go around saying,"I'm a Christian." but don't act like it. I'm far from perfect but everyday is a new day and you can only try. Nothing in life is easy and being a Christian is no different!

Goals for 9/22

My goals for last week were a little diverted but I still absolutely loved my week!

This week I would like to accomplish the below;
1) Pack up BudBud's pants to give away
2) Walk once this week
3) Make it to church on Sunday


Every month I want myself or us as a family to be a blessing. This week we accomplished it as a family and I did my part by being me.

Child Discipline....

   We gonna talk about a big issue that's going on right now with Adrian Peterson, child discipline. We all discipline our children in different ways so who are we to say another parent is wrong in the way they do it? Personally, no I don't want you telling me nothing, point blank! They are my children, I take care of them, not you. My oldest is 5 and he's in the stage of questioning everything. We use to be able to tell him something 1 time and he would do it but now he do have to repeat ourselves. At 5 you are old enough to know right from wrong. Even younger then that you know right from wrong. My son knows if he doesn't listen there will be a consequences. There is nothing wrong in this. A spanking (whoopin, pop, etc) is one of his consequences we use. Do I think Adrian was wrong for whoopin his child, no I don't. Now did he take it a too far? This should be the question were asking and not questioning spanking. I'm sorry but I believe a child needs to have an ounce of fear in them for you. If they have fear then there will be respect in return. My saying is, " If they don't respect me as their mother or have respect for adults then there will be no respect for the law!" If there is no respect for the law then what are the chances they are going to stay on the straight line? I don't know the answer but I don't want my kids to give it to us either. What forms of discipline work in your home & with what age? What our your thoughts about Adrian? 

Goals for 9/15....

It's Monday and you know what that mean, GOAL WRITING time!!!

Weekly 
1) Continue walking this week.
2) Go through BudBud's old clothes to pack them up and give away. (being a blessing)

Monthly
1) Learn all feats on my social media accounts.
2) Write twice a week.
3) Go to church every Sunday. (Not allowing any distraction to take over our emotions)

I try not to overwhelm my plate especially with the weekly goals so I prioritize. Little BudBud doesn't always help getting goals accomplished so we take one day at a time.

It's Sunday and we are getting ready for another week, we had an amazing weekend though. Friday we went out to Grapefest which has become a tradition for us, lol. Grandma treated us for the night. We had funnel cake, fried potatoes and corn dogs! Everything we didn't need! The kids had a blast playing around though. Saturday dad ran a 5k and we were there to support him. Hopefully I can get in on one too and run it, a wish right now. Today we made it out to church which felt great. The past three Sunday's we haven't made it to where we normally go so being at "home" we were back to comfort. Mikey cried when we picked him up from his class as he wasn't ready to leave. It's indescribably the feeling to have a child that loves going to church, and it melts your heart when your children are missed in their classes.  We wrapped up our Sunday by going to the park and picking dinner up. Our babies were exhausted so we laid them down early, yippee! No resting for mom as I've been busy getting work done. Unfortunately night time is the only time I have for myself  but being productive always feels good. :) 

Staying motivated...

  Biggest Loser premiers tonight yes! Biggest Loser & Extreme Makeover are shows I absolutely love to watch. They  show reality! For some being healthy is easy others (like me) not some much. Some people starve them selves, some workout, some watch what they eat. I don't starve, let me tell you, lol. Working out combined with good eating habits will take you far. My hubby & I also use Herbalife which helps out too. I say it all the time, everybody has to find their own motivation! You can fall but you have to get back up. Everyday is a new start, never give up on yourself! 

Blessings.....

  What are thoughts? Do you believe in blessings or do you see it as luck? Is it having a drive for something and your hard work paying off? I believe our answer will be based on your faith,  let me explain. Not everyone's belief in God is the same so if you don't believe in God I would say your answer will be, "I work hard so this is why I have what I have." Maybe if you've known God but have drifted away or have just denied him it may be,"  I'm lucky!" When you believe in God you'll say," I'm blessed." These are just my opinions so please don't bash me.  There's also the people that say, "We're blessed!", but don't necessarily live the lifestyle even though they know God.  What's your view? Luck, right place at the right time, blessing, hard work, etc?

  So many things to talk about.... Negative but true, positive, gossip, motivating, uplifting, drama etc etc. Do you like getting all the juicy details or would you rather not know? Do you watch the news to know what's going on? Is there a radio show or tv personality that is your go to? What about your social media news? Do you have to be in the know at all times?
  Personally watching the news isn't always my cup of tea. They are their to pass information along but most of the time I seem to start worrying about something new! Is this only me? With phones now you don't need the news, FB can replace news. With apps you can check your weather, traffic, have music and so on. ( too many things to name)
  Now, with all that we have do you feel as if we are losing touch with society? I don't need to call anyone I can just look at FB, to learn more about them you can follow them on Instagram or Pintrest. I don't remember most peoples numbers or email address because there are so many others ways to get in contact with people. Are you obsessed with your phone so you can stay in "touch"? I'll say this when I don't have my phone I feel "naked", yikes, lol! I know I'm not the only one, lol,  lets be honest :) Or are you ok to be out of touch so you can just enjoy life?

  This is our 3rd week of school and Mikey is still excited. Last Thursday we had Information Night and it was interesting. The teachers went over how the Dual-Language program will work and how students are graded. The 1st week of school all children were assessed and we were advised Mikey has a reading & comprehension level of a mid year 1st grader. Due to this he was able to start participating in both classes. Children have Social Studies in Spanish and when they are in Spanish class they are required to speak to their teacher in only Spanish. I think it's a little harsh but on the other hand I understand pushing a child. If I didn't push Mikey he wouldn't be where he's at now! The children are in groups in their main class and have "buddies" in Spanish class. If they don't know how to communicate in Spanish class they are instructed to ask their buddy. Mikey is not necessarily excited about it so we have to work on that, lol. Right now he loves Monday's as its library day and he keeps talking about the chickens the school is getting.
  Are morning routines are pretty good but Mikey is getting a little slow with his wake up. He is not really morning person. He got that from me, hehe.  Shhh, don't tell no one. I'm starting to become a morning person and I don't like it!
  What are some of the things going on in your childs school? Do you do PTA or do you volunteer? Is your child liking school so far?

Goals for 9/8

Alright here are the goals: 

Weekly Goals 

1) Start walking

2) Continue working on schedule (balance of Mikey in school, workout schedule, cleaning, etc)

3) Go to church on Sunday

Monthly Goals 

1) I still need to lose 5 lbs for the month of September ( I gained 2 lbs in the last two weeks but I still want to get out of this weight loss runt)

2) Work on prayer life

3) Be a blessing 

I don't have many goals this time but I know this will change by next month. Since Mikey started school it has been a big change. Last week also didn't go as planned and I'm still coping with that. 

Let me know your goals and lets support each other. 

  

It's Monday!!! What are your plans for the week? I had goals every week & I got away from that but I'm gonna get back on it, so goals will be posted today. Get you goals ready... 

Launch Off..

 Today is the day I bring this blog of life. I'm extremely excited, nervous, and just full of emotions.  When you put yourself out there you open a big door. Keeping this to myself is safe as I'm the only one that views it. On FB I was putting my weight loss, monthly & weekly goals. Personally I would say that I've motivated people but I want to do it on a grander scale! I'm imperfect but I want to help others get through whatever they're going through. If I can help someone laugh through their moment by laughing at me, it's ok. Don't expect me to always be proper, spell correctly, be politically correct or anything in that sense as its not me. My blog name is very simple but its real. This is going to be about my life so even though it may not be catchy it will be me being me. Jump on the bandwagon and hold on :)